The idea of revealing self respect is not a new one. A number of years ago, a psychoanalyst named William Glasser determined that there are basic needs that need to be satisfied for fundamental human joy.
To really feel beneficial, to really feel as though we have worth, there are certain favorable elements of standard human habits that we need to grow and also learn.
If you can care about and value others, you tend to have an easier time learning how to enjoy, love, and respect yourself.
These are easy (but genuinely essential) methods of living your life in a way that will show yourself respect and love while giving that to the people around you as well.
A few years back, Dr. Keith Scott-Mumby expanded on Glasser's standard concepts in a publication he titled The Gentleperson's Overview of Etiquette.
Here follows a condensed variation of them. However, do not hesitate to get the entire guide (it's FREE!). The link is at the bottom of this article.
Recognize the presence of others.
This is something lost in today's busy world. Simply nodding your head or grinning at a person you pass by, tells them: "I see you. I acknowledge you." It could transform somebody's entire day for the better.
Listen with your entire self.
A habit too many of us fall into is waiting on our opportunity to talk as opposed to actually taking in (and also considering) what the other person is stating. Everybody has the right to reasonable communication so, "open your ears and close your mouth!"
Avoid evaluating someone else's thoughts.
It is the height of conceit to presume you comprehend the thoughts of another person. Phrase your concerns with interest ("how do you really feel concerning children?") rather than allegation ("you must dislike children"). Not only is presuming another individual's thoughts conceited, generally, you're wrong!
Understand how you make others feel.
There are toxic people in the world that all of us have to deal with on a daily basis- from family members to associates to supposed "pals". You need to take a good look in the mirror and genuinely ask yourself whether you are one of those toxic people! A huge indication of showing yourself respect is being able to admit when your habits are hurtful, aggressive, or out of hand.
Do not be deliberately insulting.
You can disagree, discuss topics, and communicate without blatant disrespects or aggressiveness. The minute you call another individual by a negative term, the discussion has actually devolved. Nothing else you say will be listened to.
Quit gossiping about other people.
This advice most people would assume as "common knowledge" yet not many of us practice it. If you are in the habit of manufacturing inflammatory information concerning someone else, you are toxic. This is by no means a way of respecting yourself or others. Ask yourself whether gossiping is a good use of your time and mental energy, and if it doesn't concern you and it's not a safety concern, stay out of it!
Know the right time and place.
If you want to have an important conversation, prevent doing so with an individual that is exhausted, ill, hungry, or emotionally distressed. Individuals in such a state are unpredictable and could take your words the wrong way, or you might find it easy to "win" because the other person is at a negative state of mind.
Honesty is the most effective policy, and always will be!
Never allow your fear or lesser emotions rule you in this regard. Deal with people and situations in an open, truthful, and fair manner. Don't profit (financially, personally, or professionally) off the errors or tragedy of others.
Finish what you start.
If you promise to do something, do it!Don't let people down, and safeguard your reputation fiercely. Credibility is critical. Unfortunately, people don't care about that anymore... Don't be one of those people who don't care.
As you can see, these are useful life lessons. Sadly, in our ever-changing, fast-paced world, it seems that most people have completely forgotten them.
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